DrMKZ

I’ve been asking this question to people lately. What makes you happy? To me its a rather difficult question because it demands the truth out of you. Even lying to this question, you will not be happy. The quest of happiness is a truthful one. Honest, sincere, truthful, overjoyed, enlightened all lead to the same final destination of being happy.

To me, being happy keeps you alive, and not dead. When you are depressed or feeling lonely, the only thing that can help you is this quest for happiness. It took me 3-4 years to think what makes me happy.

So during this search of what makes me happy, I ask people and studied various books of living the life. You see, this question is an important one. (FYI, 61% of doctors in the whole world are very unhappy, BMJ) and in Malaysia, about 30% are happy and the rest are either, unhappy of neither.

Becoming a doctor, I was trying to understand this basic question. What makes people happy?

I’ve found that people are happy, when they are with their family and friends, when they are helping people just to smile for one second of the miserable little life, and when people hang out at places the presumed where happiness resides., and people are happy when they are feelinfg free of outstanding commitments and they are happy, when they know that everything is going to be alright.

People are happy, when they lose weights, when the see the person they loved, when they hear their children got A’s is exams, when they know that they can pay for any accident happen, when their cars and computers are alrite and when they can go to the loo without having any one to help them, when the know that their cancers have been succesfully surgically removed.

People are happy, when they see a smiling malay doctor, when the got on to the lift and when, the hear the Azan maghrib, and so much more.. People are happy and at the same time are unhappy.

So, I’ve concluded that happiness is a two way mechanism. Firstly, it must have the person (internal factors) and secondly, it must have the external factors. Internal factors are important so that people keep on going, and hoping for things to become better with a sound proof plan and security, and externally, people want things to go on they way the have planned, and demand for things to happen the way they wanted it to be. Herm. Interesting fact is that, not everything in our humble little life is planned by us, but somehow or rather we want things to be the way it should or must be.

So still, the question of what makes you happy is important so that both of these factor remained in a stable, desirable, understandable, secure balance.

If one of these factors is not satisfied, therefore, people will not accept of its hapiness.

What makes me happy?

My happiness is when I have reached my goals or targets. Simple enough not to make me depressed and achieveble. But on a highr ground, let say my happiness is to have a succesful life (still within the context of acheving my targets), and somehow or rather I did not managed to achieve it, therefore I’ll regret it for the rest of my life.

Then, I checked with Syed Jaafar, (a friend I trust with Hadiths), so I have yet to understand that I lived in these happiness for a long time that I somehow did not managed to realised upon its existence.

Remember these, Lima perkara sebelum lima,

1. Sihat sebelum sakit
2. Senang sebelum susah
3. Kaya sebelum miskin
4. Muda sebelum tua
5. Hidup sebelum mati

I am all these, I am healthy, senang, ada duit, young and alive. Therefore I am happy.

However, after thinking, I see that, I’ll become all that. Happy is a timeline. Happy is a perception upon a pre-planned timeline. People dont see this. Hapiness is a perfect synchronised mechanism to further human existence. Happiness is a delicate balance of what you have now and what you will lost later. Happiness is working hard and acheieved what you have plan.

and right now, I am happy because I have achieved everything.

30:15
Then those who have believed and worked righteous deeds, shall be made happy in a Mead of Delight.

Then what makes you happy?